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Navigating the ‘quarter-life-crisis’

As featured in The Mirror 01.02.2025

Increasing numbers of young adults are experiencing what they call a ‘quarter-life-crisis’.

Forget the mid-life-crisis stereotypes of a middle aged man buying a sports-car in his 50s. Now people in their 20s are struggling with life transitions and understanding world, and who they are within it.

Culturally the concept and transition to adulthood has changed and become longer than for past generations. Emerging adulthood is now not a transition stage but a full developmental phase that lasts from18 years to about age 29 years of age. Whereas in say the 1970s, people were in full time work, married and having their first child by 25, these traditionally ‘Big’ life events are happening up to 10 years later than in the 1970s.

In the present day, people in their 20s are still learning about their identity – who are they, what is their place in the world, what do they want to do with their life.

It is also a stage of great instability in terms of their environment, as people figure out who they are they are also navigating an ever changing employment and economic landscapes.

It is no surprise then that more half of emerging adults often experience anxiety, and a third report often feeling depressed. Even if this is not a clinical diagnosis, more complex living environments twinned with expectations that do not align with changing society can lead to more stress and negative impacts on mental wellbeing.

Emerging adulthood can bring opportunities

Though this period of life seems defined by uncertainty, it can also present a lot of opportunities. Having more time as an emerging adult allows for exploration, learning, and self-understanding, that can ultimately lead to more intentional life choices. Rather than viewing this stage as a crisis to be fixed, it may be more helpful to recognise it as a normal part of modern development.

A good way to navigate this new season of life is to ensure you have good social support, realistic expectations, and have open conversations with people around you. Ask for advice, help and support. Take time to make decisions and reflect on their outcomes.

By acknowledging the challenges of emerging adulthood and reframing them as part of a longer journey toward self-understanding, society can help reduce negative views of emerging adulthood and empower young people to find meaning and resilience in the face of change.

A Recipe for Moving and Coping

Ways to embrace and accept sadness in a healthy way

As featured in Stylist March 2025

Sadness is a natural, important emotion that helps us process life’s experiences, learn about ourselves, and grow. 

First, we need to understand why we experience sadness. Sadness typically arises when we experience a type of loss, either something tangible like a possession, or experiences like connection with others.

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Whilst sadness is unpleasant, this negative experience lets us know that something was important to us, and so we learn about our needs, values and goals in the same way we do with positive experiences. Together, positive and negative experiences allow us to feel fulfilled in live, as we have things and experiences that we do not want to lose. 

When addressing sadness, getting a balance is key; dwelling on sadness can lead to a negative outlook on life, and supressing negative emotions altogether can negatively impact mood. But the concept of ‘embracing sadness’ can feel quite strange; no one truly relishes a negative experience but remembering that emotions are not permanent can support ‘feeling our feelings’ in the moment, and acknowledging that they will pass.

There are a number of exercises you can try out to help with this process.

Start with acceptance – A gentle way to accepting sadness is by first observing emotions in everyday life, at times when you are not feeling sad. Keeping a diary or journal can help with this. Try noting your emotions at different times of day, how long they last, thoughts that accompany them, and physical sensations. With practice this type of self-reflection becomes easier. As you gain confidence, you can start applying this to moments of sadness.

Observe your sadness– By taking an observer’s perspective you can notice emotions without judgement. Ask yourself ‘How does this sadness feel in the moment?’ ‘What physical sensations am I experiencing, and where is this in my body?’ You can also notice as you go through these questions how sadness changes, and what the impact of this change is. Bringing more objective awareness to your sadness can highlight that emotions are not permanent, and that you are not your emotions.

Describe your sadness – Going beyond a label of ‘sadness’ can help reduce the intensity of emotions. Describing can also help you reflect on the meaning behind this experience. You could take a commentator stance, explaining what the feeling is, as if to another person. Describing sadness can provide insight into what’s really going on, and reduce any related overwhelm. For example, if you have broken a treasured item possession, you might say:

  • I feel sadness in my shoulders
  • I feel disappointment in my stomach
  • The possession reminds me of a person I miss
  • Without this physical reminder I feel this loss more

Learn from your sadness – Reframing sadness as a learning experience can help shift perspective from the immediate emotion, without supressing or ignoring it. The ‘What, So What, Now What?’ method can be used to reflect on your emotional experience. 

  • What? – What did I experience? 
  • So What? – What does this sadness tell me about my strengths, values, and goals.
  • Now What? – How can I respond to similar experiences in the future?

By embracing, reflecting, and learning from sadness rather than avoiding it, we allow ourselves to heal and move forward with greater emotional strength.

Why you should pick up a cosy hobby

Featured in Good Housekeeping here and here

Research has shown that there are several pathways to happiness and good mental wellbeing. One of the most effective is simply doing activities that bring us joy and a sense of fulfilment. But this becomes more effective when we combine our favourite hobbies with other key ingredients for happiness. 

Take knitting, for example. Engaging in activities we truly enjoy helps build resilience—the ability to adapt to challenges and manage stress. When we are fully absorbed in a creative task, we can enter a state of “flow,” where we focus entirely on the present moment rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. This level of engagement leads to greater life satisfaction and productivity. 

Social connection is another key ingredient. Feeling supported and a sense of belonging helps us manage stress more effectively. Hobbies like knitting and crochet provide wonderful opportunities to build friendships based on shared interests, and doing so strengthens our social network. Even better, helping others is another way to achieve happiness, so supporting your network adds to the personal benefits as well!

Having a sense of meaning and accomplishment are other great ways to boost wellbeing. Setting personal goals to work towards in any area of life, including cosy hobbies, provides purpose to our pleasures. Whether you’re learning a new craft or challenging yourself with a new pattern, working towards goals and feeling accomplished boosts self-esteem, positive emotions, and overall wellbeing.

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The joy of cozy hobbies is that they naturally incorporate many of these ingredients. You can enjoy them alone, or as part of a community. Whether you connect with others in person or online, the benefits remain the same: a greater sense of joy, engagement, purpose, accomplishment, and shared connection support your wellbeing.

So, if you’re looking for a scientifically-backed way to increase your happiness, picking up a cozy hobby might be the perfect place to start!

 

3 Good Things a day can improve wellbeing

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You can try this and other Positive Psychology activities with the Happy Habits Box.

Exams: seven tips for coping with revision stress

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Emma Palmer-Cooper, University of Southampton

Exam season is underway across the UK. If you’re sitting exams this summer, you might be feeling stressed and a bit overwhelmed as you try to prepare.

You’re not alone: stress is a normal part of the human experience, and this is a particularly challenging time. But there are ways you can manage this stress and maintain your wellbeing. Developing healthy habits to cope with stress will improve your psychological and emotional wellbeing, and ultimately support your academic achievements.

Here are seven tips that you might find helpful.

1. Take a breath

The first thing to do when experiencing stress in the moment is to take a deep breath.

When you start to feel stressed, your heart rate increases, your palms get sweaty and your blood pressure rises. If you take a few deep breaths when this feeling sets in, you can regulate your heart rate and the physical experience of stress can be reduced. This can help focus your mind and create space to decide how to manage this stress.

Once you have taken a breath, there are other things you can do to help you feel less stressed.

2. Set goals – and be realistic

It is really important to remember that you can’t “complete” revision. Instead, you can set achievable goals that you feel comfortable with.

Don’t write so many things on your to-do list that you feel anxious just looking at it. Think about what is realistically achievable in the time you have, and set goals for revision tasks that lead to steady progress. Don’t forget to factor in time for self-care, and remember to congratulate yourself on your achievements.

3. Take a break

No one can maintain complete focus on a task like revision forever. Over time, concentrating makes us feel tired and actually reduces our ability to complete a activity well. It can also mean we need more energy to complete our task to our usual standard, and increase the chance of mistakes.

So, taking regular breaks really will improve your ability to work hard. If it’s all getting too much, do something else for a bit.

4. Get active – and go outside

Regular physical activity is really important for improving wellbeing and reducing stress. This can be whatever suits you: go for a walk or a run, or take part in a sport you like. Don’t avoid it because you feel you should be revising instead.

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If you can get outside to a local park to exercise, even better. My research with colleagues has shown that during the pandemic, even without the usual levels of social interaction and social support, the simple act of spending time in green spaces like parks had a positive impact on student wellbeing.

5. Find your people

Social connection is a really important source of wellbeing for young people. You might be chatting to friends online throughout the day, but lots of social media use may also have a negative impact on wellbeing. It’s important to maintain connections offline, too: organise hangouts with friends during revision periods, and enjoy time in other people’s company during your rest time.

Your regular breaks from revision are the perfect opportunity to bring some of these ideas together. Perhaps meet up with a friend for a walk in the park.

6. Make healthy choices

It might be tempting to reach for an energy drink so you can keep on revising late into the evening. But drinking energy drinks can lead to poorer academic performance – as can drinking alcohol and vaping.

Instead of an energy drink, just go for water or a nutritional alternative like a fruit smoothie. And instead of staying up late to revise, prioritise your sleep. Disrupted sleep can increase our experience of negative mood, in a similar way to experiencing jetlag – and getting a good amount of sleep is linked to doing better in exams.

7. One size doesn’t fit all

The tips here are backed up by evidence and are a good place to start when it comes to managing exam stress. But you should also think about what you know works well for you. Think about what makes you happy and helps to calm you down if you feel overwhelmed: maybe writing in a journal, or listening to a favourite album. Combining healthy habits and favourite activities is a recipe for success, both in terms of exam performance and stress management.

Emma Palmer-Cooper, Lecturer in Psychology, Centre for Innovation in Mental Health, University of Southampton

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.